How long should a 70 year old man wait to start a new relationship after his wife dies
62how long to wait
A man was married for about fifty years, his wife died when he was about seventy years old, he met a woman that same year and they got married a year later, the woman is fifty five years old.
Some of his family and friends, which includes me were very happy for him to see that he found someone else who loved him.
His former wifes family and all her friends were very angry, they said he moved on with his life too soon it seems as if he was disrespecting the memory of his wife by getting married so soon after her death,
If he was twenty or thirty years younger i could understand the point that they are trying to make, but seeing that this man is now in his seventies, how long do they think is a reasonable time for him to grieve,
Five ten or fifteen years, or maybe the right thing for him to do was to live the remaing of his life alone, and in mourning for his wife.
We all grieve in different ways, some people keep to themselves and stay away from others as much as they can, some cry a lot and feel sorr for themselves
Others go into deep depression, some lost their love for life but we all grieve in our own way and those who are fortunate to find love again, we should be happy for them.
There is no doubt in my mind that he loved his wife with all his heart, but that does not mean he is not capable of loving anyone else.
People get divorced and fall in love again and get married again, so what is so wrong with him moving on after her death.
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thats exactly how i feel,even though he found someone and remarry,that does not take away from the relationship that had with his wife, they should be happy for him.
thanks for the comment,all the best to you and your family.
And I am sure his wife would be happy for him now. No one wants a person they love to be lonely and sad when they are gone.
i think so-if you really love someone you want them happy--even if it is with someone else
I don't see anything wrong with him marrying after a year. Being with someone he loves and one who loves him can be instrumental in him dealing with healing. I don't mean to sound rude, but he became a free agent after his wife died. She is not coming back, so what is there wait for, but to find the right person to fill the void. I would suggest that once a person has come to grips with the grieving process and is ready to move on without carrying a lot of negative baggage, to do it. Good luck to any age.
I wish him luck and happiness also.
I am 54 lost my husband to cancer after 32 yrs of marriage. I met a man who is now 59 last yr 1 year after his wifes death. My husband had been gone 2 years. They died 1 year and 1 day apart. We are happy, we understand where the other comes from and that we both still miss our spouses, (he was married 42 years). He is a good loving man and I hope to have many years with him, My husband was only 4 years older than me and just becuase you are close in age doesn't mean you are going to be given forever together.
K9keystrokes Level 7 Commenter 22 months ago
I don't think he should mourn his wifes death for the rest of his life. I lost my spouse of 14 years to cancer. I had to promise to go on and find someone new to love. Possibly this is the case with him and his wife. She may have loved him so much, that she didn't want him to wait (because of his advanced age). Finding love is a wonderful thing at any age. He is fortunate to have found someone to share his golden years with.
Just because he remarried, does not mean he isn't still mourning inside, some pains are to intense to express, his wife's family should be more understanding and happy that he loved hi wife so much and enjoyed their life together that he couldn't wait too long to find that comfort once more. This is a man who knows how to love! Good for him!
Good luck with the family~
K9